March Session: Masculinity and the sex script

Did it ever happen to you that during or before having sex you said ‘yes’ to things you actually didn’t want to do? Or did you do things to others that you thought were ‘supposed to go like that’ without checking if the other person actually wanted it? Do you notice that you are following a script during sex without reflecting on if this is the kind of sex that you want to have?

There are a lot of norms and expectations around sex(uality) that we have internalized ourselves. These norms are disseminated through pop culture (music, movies, social media) but are also hidden in the things we’ve learned at school, from our parents and family and in interacting with our friends. What are those unconscious norms and expectations that we’ve internalized? And what pressure does it create? What is the sex script you struggle with?

In our sessions we have often heard people with internalized masculinity say that they feel a pressure to perform in a certain way when it comes to sex. In this session we want to find out how our internalized sex scripts look, how it affects us in shaping our sexual interactions and what we can do to create more authentic, healthier and consent-based sexual relationships.

For this session, too, we explicitly invite people who have internalized masculinity. 

DateMarch 19th
Time19:30
LocationMoira
Wolvenstraat 10
3512 CE Utrecht